I found some groundbreaking info that I’m excited to share with you today!
According to Gretchin Rubin, a New York Times best seller author and a thought provoking writer in the realm of habits and happiness, “before you can change your habits successfully, you have to first understand yourself”.
*light bulb moment*
According to her findings, there are Four Tendencies for how we respond to the idea of expectations, both external and internal.
Understanding which tendency you fall under can help you become more empowered to handle your day in a way that will support you.
The first tendency is to Question.
The Questioners wake up in the morning and think, “What needs to get done today?” They question all expectations and will do something only if it makes sense. They thrive on research and can wear themselves out with their constant thirst for understanding.
The second tendency is to Uphold.
Upholders wake up and almost effortlessly move through their To Do List. They keep expectations without much effort. The can easily become a slave to their To Do List, however and find it hard to deviate when flexibility is needed.
The third tendency is to Oblige.
An Obliger wakes up in the morning and asks, “What do others need me to do?” They are often able to come through in big ways for others but not for themselves, and so are puzzled and frustrated when their personal priorities and expectations constantly get pushed aside.
The fourth tendency is to Rebel.
The Rebel asks, “What do I want to do today?” They are extremely in touch with themselves and are motivated by their present desire. They get tired out because they cannot tell themselves what to do.
Do you want to know which tendency you tend toward and how you can use it to better support yourself?
Here’s the link to the quiz: http://www.surveygizmo.com/s3/3163256/Gretchen-Rubin-s-Quiz-The-Four-Tendencies-Fall2016
Knowing which way we tend toward helps us build in the support we need to accomplish meaningful goals and live a happier, healthier life.
Which one are you?